Living without satisfying one’s self is like living for other’s wishes, as if he is a robot/zombie/slave.
One must be bold to request others' things that they like to get. He should not refuse them to himself and control himself not to request. Even if those things are refused by those others after his request, he can still get similar things from yet some other people by requesting them.
Likewise, one should not give away what he wants to retain with himself. If that thing is in excess amount, part of it can be shared with affection, love and care towards the receiving person.
