Scholar in proportion! Mad in out of proportion!

     Imagination, with memory added to it, helps one to learn when he studies or learns in class rooms of an institution. But all these imagination, memory and sensual perceptions should be in moderate proportion for that learning. If they are done in out of proportion, whether in increased or lowered proportion, the person is made tired and confused at the end of the learning session. The person's learning is thus hindered. When imagination is done excessively, it produces bizarre perception through normal senses. If memory is also added to these excessively, then it maddens the person! So, be moderate in these; stop doing them excessively and take rest in between the sessions of learning - to become a scholar!

Freedom is the key for satisfaction!

     Freedom to perform any activity without compulsion, but with moderate self restriction, is the requirement to lead a life with full satisfaction in it!

Be wise and co-operate!

   Benefits of being co-operative, will be felt only when one feels himself/herself the loss of the companionship, incurred while being uncooperative with others!

Restricting to one's limits!

          As a person/his body ages on, he should be aware of  his own limits. And he should do activities with his body, within it's limits and to the extent of its capability only - without either overusing it or leaving it to remain idle!

Remind yourself and also advise others!

      Know that, remember that and remind yourself that, the people around you and others are not objects (or puppets, or pets) as you may think; they have their own mind and body, and freedom. They too are susceptible to changes, according to their changed situations. So, do not attempt intensively to revert them back in your way; it may be unfair to them in their angle of view. But, advise them in a few friendly words to lead and live in a good and correct path for their own welfare. Let them change themselves!

Accept changes and don't expect all!

      People of the younger age to the middle age should accept changes and situations, within limits [:)], that happen in them, in others or in the environment around them.
      But after their middle age, they should accept them all - as usual and natural things that happen in all the generations. And, they should not expect all that they wish to happen either in them, in others or in the environment around them. If they get what they expected, it's well and good; they must accept it - within limits!

Decrease to a minimum!

      It is everybody's nature to show their ability and capability to do their activities to a higher level. But this nature may affect both that person indulging in it and the children around him. For example, if you increase the TV sound volume, you may feel exhilarated; but the children around you shall be attracted by the sound towards the TV, stopping their playing/activities. This shall compromise on their learning. And it shall make them addicted to TV-viewing, and lead a sedentary life style in future. It is needless to say that all those listening to the TV with high volume shall also become susceptible to hearing loss. So, in TV listening, reduce volume level to a minimum.
        Another example for showing such high abilities is the raising accelerator of the vehicles to the maximum that shall land the person in trouble, surely.

Making yourself live in the minds of others!

      In a meeting, you should make each of its participants feel 'yourself' with all their senses. For this, you shall have to use all your senses to influence them. Then, each one of the participants shall remember you all through their lifetime - at least through that memory registered by one of his/her senses!

Speeding vehicle and the body's emergency reaction!

        Wherever there is speed, there will be a resultant body alertness to meet out any emergency, both inside and outside the body. Initially our body shall remain calm during the travel. But later when we speed up our vehicle, our body shall feel as if we are going (like walking or running) fast. It shall keep itself ready and be in tension to meet any emergency. This reaction happens even when one remains in a vehicle as a passenger. It is needless to say how the body of the person driving the vehicle fast will react for this! Whenever the body finds itself  to be unstable,  unlike that in the calm sitting posture, it triggers in itself  the preparedness to meet any emergency. So, it is better to avoid travelling fast frequently, even as a passenger. One has to allow periods of resting and calming down to the body either after such travel or in the intervening period of successive fast travels. Then one can be sure that he/she can avoid diseases arising out of such speeding!

'Children only' levels!

        Children have limited understanding capabilities depending upon their knowledge gained from age to age. This capability of them should not be even tried to be pushed up towards adult level. If you do so, it may affect children's emotional and mental functions. All such levels of understanding, knowledge, emotion and mentality should be equal and balancing, pertaining to the age of the child.
Do not treat kids as adults learning their school subjects or doing mischief. There are 'children only' levels too. Do not make these levels crossed and moved to the 'adults only' levels! Let them learn or understand according to and appropriate to their ages.
Treat children as children at children's level only - both in punishing and appreciating too. Do not overload kids as adults!

Help to get helped!

     Think about the need of help that other family members might be expecting or requiring from you for themselves. Help them. And expect help for your needs from them too. And make them think about your needs, understand about it, and help you. This will make a better living, relationship, and will give much benefits within the family.

Check before and after journey!

     Before starting for a trip, check in the house itself what all you yourself  are having and what others have with them. During the journey, after visiting each place, check on the place (even the car or the transporting vehicle) itself whether you all are having those belongings; then only leave the place. With such precautionary checking, you can be sure about your keeping them safely, without losing any of them in the trip.

Make kids enjoy now!

      Children have simple and singly concentrating mind; they have thus much potentialities to enjoy greatly than the adult members of the family. Their childhood pleasant events and enjoyment shall linger in their memories as great, all through their adulthood. So, let them enjoy in all aspects in their childhood itself by providing them all the opportunities - within limits!

Do that work first and ensure safety!

    Whenever you are planning to do an important work, do only that one and do not mix it with many more other unimportant works. After doing that important work exclusively, return back the valuable documents of it and place them safely in their respective places of safety. And only after this, go and do the other works. This routine practice if carried out and continued without any lapse, it shall ensure the safety of your valuable documents.

Change routine to refresh!

       Do not do the same routine activities daily after returning home from office work; either change the order of doing them or do new unplanned activities that shall be creative to yourself and others. It shall also refresh you!

Expose kids to choose and enjoy!

      Children must be exposed to all the objects, places and activities in the environment. Let them explore all. They must know about them by your expression of appreciation about them. Then, they shall have interest, and choose the proper and the best one that they like among them. Such an exposure shall shape them, and lead them to make their future life pleasant and worthy.

Wish deeper to the heart to happen!

      Pray, wish or desire it to happen. It shall happen if you are really in need of it from the deepness of your heart (mind), if you do not have any other needs at that time, and do earnest activities towards it. Your wish will be answered and the miracle of its happening will be experienced in fast mode too, if you are at a younger age!  

What others expect of you?

    When you have attained maturity in life, youngsters expect your experience, guidance and your being pleasant with them. But they don't expect your advice, as they don't wish or need it. And they may feel uncomfortable/unpleasant about it! [But, in spite of it you can advise them once or twice, when it is of importance in the situation dealt with].

Punish and then console kids to set them right!

      If a child beats you unexpectedly, you react suddenly by beating it back. Then you realize and repent that you yourself were unfair to it. In that instant, even if you first punished the child, the other family members console, then advise and warn the child not to do that mischief or wrong thing once again. And they forgive the child at that instant itself, and the child stops crying. Thereafter you shall find the child not repeating that activity! 

Greatness of Him is not yet felt!

     Greatness is understood by people either by comparing or from others' narration about it. So, greatness can be either felt through one's own senses by comparing or through others' speech/words communicated by them. Children believe in speech/words rather than believing through their senses.  'God is great' - here people choose to hear the greatness of Him through others' words only! Does any one feel His greatness through his/her senses? We are still like children believing in words! We should begin to feel Him and His greatness through our inner senses by spirituality. 

De-addicting from the addicting hobby!

      Hobby is doing the desired work at one's leisure time. But if one is desirous to continue it even into his routine works time, it becomes an addiction to that hobby work. To dissuade from it, one should refuse it now to himself and postpone it to a later time or a later day. But on that very postponed time/day he must distract or divert himself to another routine work in a different place at a distance from that hobby-site. Next time if he gets again that desire, he must restrain himself again by diverting as before. Soon he will begin to feel the better aspects of not doing that addicting hobby that is done without any time consciousness. Then, even when he returns back to it later on, he will do it only in his leisure time! And he won't do it beyond any set limit; he shall restrict himself within his leisure time. And he shall have become then totally de-addicted from that addicting hobby!

Don't beat yourself!

      Retaliating with the members in your family will only bounce back to yourself as a rifle recoils itself back or as a boomerang returns back; this effect shall be realized later only. It is like beating on yourself thinking that the other person is a different one standing in front of you!

Quit conversing if otherwise!

     In conversation, we may go on hesitating to speak and may be also not attentive to listen to others. One of the persons you are conversing with may lie. Another one may have incomplete knowledge on the subject discussed and fill it with all his guess and inform it. So, we must converse when we ourselves are attentive and bold to express, and that too with those persons who have complete knowledge and who are also attentive and earnest. Otherwise, it is better not to converse at all on this subject and quit the group!

Be active yourself to make kids romp!

   Adults should do their activities with their full expression and emotion without suppressing them. Then, on seeing them, the kids shall respond similarly and shall repeat so in their adulthood too. This shall also make a good impression and congenial attitude in the minds of relatives and friends!

Using all your senses and experience!

       At young age, using all your senses you get and enjoy things you desire from the environment. Then, as you become aged, with all the experience you have gained in the life so far, you do the activities that interest you and others!

To be successful in any endeavour!

    If one can provide time, energy, money and effort to start and do his business/job/education, it will be worth of doing it. But if he also does that with some earlier planning for managing it all throughout it, he can complete and achieve it successfully!

Storing time for later use!

        We cannot save our time as saving our money in the bank. But you can divide and plan your time and allot yourself each unit of it to do your works and/to get the pleasures out of them. But you cannot preserve and save the present unused time and do the work in it later on. Once you are 'present' at this time of earthly hours, as others are present, you should either use it or pass through it wasted and unused. Thus you cannot stop it now and/to have it later on to use it! So, you shall have to 'have' your 'presence' with your total involvement, and that too with total awareness/consciousness in any work, that you might do within it. Here, you do the work feeling the passing away of time. Then only you shall have the memory of having used your valuable time usefully, without any regrets. By doing like this, you can also have all the benefits out of 'having the time of existence' in this world i.e. your life. Do not postpone work. Time doesn't have any future availing utility; use it wisely now itself!   

Staying child forever - in Image!

        We cannot stay as a child forever, even if you wish to be a child. With the food we eat, we change  - grow all the way through our ageing years. Even after our growth stops in our adult age, our shape goes on changing constantly. There are some slight alterations of our bones' shape either by dissolution or by addition of minerals. So, store an image (picture/photo) of yourself each day - to see the minute changes you and your body have made with the food you eat! You can see and compare your younger age photos and the recent photos to appreciate this. You may question now yourself and exclaim, 'Who is he!' or 'Am I he!'

Bliss is better than haappiness!

      Happiness is a temporary state of mind; later, it shall settle down and fade out in other day to day activities. But being in bliss means that the whole body, mind and the soul are in a joyful state that persists permanently; it shall be there on the background though varying in intensity at times - of sorrow or of happiness itself!

Valuing is the key before an activity!

       Valuing is there in all our actions without our knowing it. It arises out of either a desire or a need. But to do an action, one should value it wisely and properly. An action may be 'less important' or 'important' or 'the most important' for him at a given situation. He can value one and do it as it presents itself. But consider a situation when many actions are intended to be done and thus all of  them present themselves at the same time. Here he should first value them all and select one that he finds valuable, wise and important to him and then do it. After doing it, he can proceed to do the next one that he finds and feels important and good for him.

Share your enjoyment with kids!

    Create for children situations to enjoy every activity; create an environment for them to make the place enjoyable. Guide them and communicate with them to experience and enjoy every activity with wonder and enthusiasm. Involve yourself also in their activities, enjoying, and making them to have a share from your enjoyment that they will remember for lifetime.
      Even a little enjoyment, that we consider as less important one, will be a greater one to children; it will be like one of our enjoyment that we feel now and think as a great one to have in our lifetime!
      So, make life enjoyable in each activity of children so that their later life shall also be enjoyed by them pleasantly, even when we are away from them.

Avoid hastiness by forethought!

       One can have forethought to avoid hastiness and its bad outcome. An example for this is here. While boarding a train, passenger's all mental burdens urge and make him to rush; but this hastiness may lead him to trouble - to injure his body that shall delay him to resume back to his routine life or it may risk his life.
         So, in any activity to make it successful, one has to plan beforehand with forethought - at least for a few minutes well before executing it. And he has to arrive at the place of activity well before the accepted time too.
        In continuing the above example, one should plan time and things well beforehand, reach the train station platform before the stipulated time of train departure. Then only he can have a calm and clear but alert mind before boarding the train. And he shall then board the train with ease and without hastiness. And thus he can avoid injury and be safe to enter into the train - with the pleasing expectation of going to get travelling comfort!

Don't demand more and more of pleasure!

      Like light and darkness repeat and like day and night repeat, our birth and death may repeat. Here in this world we get thus form, body and mind, and then give them back each time. But, we get only pain or pleasure on our each passing through our lifetime in this Earth.
      Our all experiences in each of these lifetimes are also forgotten with it. Thus, feeling of pain or pleasure is the only thing we have as our own now. So, with the pleasure that we get we must be satisfied and be content. With the pain, we must strive our hard to get rid of it, and move towards pleasure, and then get satisfied after getting it.
      Probably, seeking for more and more of pleasure or for more and more pleasure after the relief from pain may be the reason for our repeated rebirths in this Earth!

Find and adopt accepted ways to prosper!

      When a person gains experience in life with the ageing on, he can be sure of finding ways easily to thrive and lead his best life. But these ways should be adopted and managed in the society-accepted correct and proper manner only, and that too done at correct and proper time.      

We divide lifetime into years to become lazy!

     We divide all and everything and put a limit for our common activities, convenience and comfort. By dividing and counting years too, we feel safe, comfortable, satisfied and easy; then with it we become lazy! But all of us have only one type of allotted 'year' or period - our lifetime that too is an inconsistent, unknown and varying period. The only real and constant fact is that all of us are existing at this contemporary time - all are living together at this time (of reading)! By being aware of these (better earlier in younger age itself), each one of us shall understand its reality and be active at all this 'existing time' to have a comfortable, satisfied, easier and enjoyable life!